Traveling always makes me anxious. I start to get a nervous, twitchy feeling a couple of days ahead. I make lists, do errands and chores to get ready, but the feeling never quite goes away.
Whenever we went on a summer vacation, it was always the same thing. Up before the sun, packing the car, and arguing. Always with the arguing, followed by a long period of awkward silence. When we arrived at our destination, whether it was a friend’s or a relative’s house, we always pretended that everything was fine.
Aunt: “How was your trip?”
Mom: “Oh it was great. No problems at all.”
I recognize now that they were also anxious and that was how they dealt with it. Bickering. I do it too if I’m not careful. Thankfully we now know more about anxiety and my BF and I can talk about it and can predict that I will be anxious and have some strategies to help. Not cure, but help. Maybe they will help you too.
I’m going to print this out for myself and put it in my planner that goes in my purse so that I can refer to this list and try some of the ideas.
What do you do when you’re anxious?
Text Talk Tuesday- The One in a Million Boy by Monica Wood
This multi-dimensional story features a 104 year old woman, a quirky, young boy and his imperfect family. The boy is the title character of the book even though we learn of his death in the first chapter. Oddly enough, we never learn his name, he is only referred to as “the boy.”
The boy is working towards a merit badge in boy scouts when he suddenly dies and so his father takes over his volunteer work for Ona Vitkus, the 104 year old woman he has promised to help for the next couple of months. His father takes over the job and forms a bond with this somewhat-crotchety old lady.
I absolutely adored this book, even though it is certainly sad at times, it is touching and sweet. The characters are real with many flaws which make you root for them all the more. The ending was perfect. I would not have changed a thing about it. It’s the kind of book that has rich language and causes you to think about the most important things in your life.
“I love all who love me. Those who search will surely find me.” Proverbs 8:17
He was there all along, we just didn’t see it. It’s like when you were in high school and the person you had a crush on drove a white truck. All of a sudden, it seems like there were white trucks everywhere! God was there all along, you just weren’t searching for him until now!
How to search for God
- Study the bible daily
- Pray each day and throughout the day
- Start a prayer journal
- Go outside in nature
- Go to church
- Fellowship-Join a church group
- Ask God to show you, then be still and patient
- Show gratitude
- Recognize that the Holy Spirit is in you, and in others as well
What does this look like in my Everyday Life?
Do I do all of these things everyday? No, definitely not. Would I like to? Yes! Some versions of the bible say “those who seek me early shall find me.” This could mean early, as in, before anything else or it could mean early in youth. Since it’s too late to have started this in my youth, I think it’s safe to assume that this could mean early/before anything else/first in your heart and mind.
I’m a planner girl. I actually have two personal planners, another one for business, one for my job and another one for taking notes and other misc. things. It’s a bit of an obsession. (washi tape anyone?)
I know that for me, if something is going to get done and if it’s important to me, then it needs to be in my planner. I have certain tasks that I try very hard to stick to each day. I created a printable that you could print on sticker paper to use in your planner, or print it on regular paper and use washi tape or double sided tape to use in your planner. The first column is for weekdays, the middle column for Sundays, the third column is for days when you are doing something with your church group- women’s ministry, bible study, knitting group, etc. and the final column could be personalized for your own needs.
To access the printable Click here. I hope this helps you on your journey to seek God first!
“and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: you should mind your own business, and work with your hands, just as we told you,” 1 Thessalonians 4:11
“those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.” Proverbs 13:3
This is super advice. Absolutely true and very difficult to do. I, for one, have at times, failed miserably at keeping my mouth shut. I have gotten caught up in a moment and said something that I shouldn’t have.
Like the time I told my son that he was probably too big to be a race car driver- he’s 6’3″ and 220 pounds. He was devastated. I thought he knew!!
Or the time that I pulled an enormous hair off of my mom’s chin. In front of about 8 people. “Wow Mom, that’s huge!” Oops. Embarrassing.
Sometimes I just don’t think. Thankfully, God forgives me (and eventually my mom did too). But how can I prevent these kinds of missteps from happening again?
- Fill my heart and mind with God’s word so that it comes out of me. (ex. stop watching the Real Housewives shows. Talk about not minding your own business!) The unfolding of your words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple. Psalm 119:130
- Pray for God’s help. (ex. just because she’s wearing skin-tight, flesh-colored skinny jeans doesn’t mean that I have to tell her that’s a bad idea) May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14
- Be gracious. (ex. don’t point out or pull out other people’s chin hairs in public) Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24
- Look for and point out the good things that people are doing. (ex. yes, it’s obvious they don’t know how to load a dishwasher properly, but at least the dirty dishes are in the dishwasher instead of on the counter RIGHT ABOVE IT!) He traveled throughout that area, speaking words of encouragement to the people, and finally arrived in Greece Acts 20:2
- Let the Holy Spirit be your guide, not posts on social media. (ex. yes, that political joke was funny, but should you really repeat it?) This is what we speak, not in words taught by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining Spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words. 1 Corinthians 2:13
What strategies do you use to keep your words sweet?
Text Talk Tuesday- Eligible by Curtis Sittenfeld
This is a retelling of Jane Austen’s book Pride and Prejudice and the fourth in a series of modern versions of her books. Austen’s original was a witty story that poked fun at English society and this book does the same thing but in modern times in Cincinnati of all places!
In this version, Elizabeth Bennett is a writer for Mascara magazine, Jane is a yoga instructor, Mary is a scholar, and Lydia and Kitty are Crossfit junkies who don’t have jobs. Mrs. Bennett is still remarkably and hilariously self-centered and Mr. Bennett just can’t be bothered with any of it.
When we join the story, Mr. Bennett has had heart trouble and all the girls come home to help. Mr. Bingley and Mr. Darcy are doctors at the hospital and lucky for Mrs. Bennett, still rich!
I thoroughly enjoyed this book; it is laugh out loud funny. It pokes fun at all of us and somehow, I wasn’t offended. The build up to the moment when all is settled is delicious, and though I couldn’t wait to get there, I was definitely sorry when the book was over. I’m sure that I will go and get the other books in this series.
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My ex-husband has a few health problems. These made it impossible for him to work outside the home. Through no fault of his own, he became dependent on me and his disability check to meet his needs and provide for our family. I learned that I was blessed to be able to work and provide for my family. It was much better to be the one who was healthy enough to work than to be the one who couldn’t for health reasons.
1 Thessalonians 4:12 states, So that you may bear yourselves becomingly and be correct and honorable and command the respect of the outside world, being dependent on nobody and having need of nothing.
Women have always been caught in a struggle between being submissive to their husbands and to God, and at the same time, being independent enough to take care of the home and family if they need to do so.
I felt like I needed to supplement my income, but I really didn’t have time to get another job outside of the home. I wanted to have a business from home, but my problem was that I felt like I just didn’t have any good ideas for a business. I was confident that once it started, that I could work the business, but I didn’t have any idea what it would be.
Here’s what I have learned about getting a good idea for a business from doing some research:
- What do you love to do? What are you good at? Ask your friends, family and co-workers if you don’t know.
- What don’t you like? If you’re going to work hard at creating a business, it has to be something you really enjoy. So if you don’t like sales, don’t try to sell makeup to your friends.
- Find a problem and solve it. What is something that really bugs you that you would like fixed? How to get rid of ants? An easier way to organize your papers? Somewhere to
stash care for your mother-in-law when she can’t live alone anymore? If it is bothering you, it’s probably a problem for others as well.
- What are your talents and skills? Maybe one of those could turn into a business for you.
- Just start. It may not work out this time, and it may take several starts and stops, but at least you will learn a lot.
The name for this blog came from the Bible- 2 Samuel 23. This chapter starts with the last words of King David and ends with a list of the men who were part of The Thirty. Thirty mighty warriors who battled for King David against all odds.
This idea of “The Thirty” and “The Three of the Thirty” captivates me. I’m not exactly sure why- maybe it’s something to do with being part of an elite group. But in any case, I was thinking that this is an interesting story, but not particularly relevant to me today, as a woman with no army to fight.
However, as a woman in today’s society, I believe that we all need “warriors” to fight against the things that try to bring us down. We need confidence, compassion and lots of energy! Just to name a few.
In fact I have at least 30 (there were actually 37 warriors in all, so I don’t feel bad for going over) “warriors” that Godly women need to do battle in today’s society.
I hope that you’ll join me in my journey to develop my own warriors and that this helps you to develop your 30.